In today's fast-paced world, many of us have friendships that serve as outlets for shared experiences, but how deep are they really? We've all had girlfriends we can call up for a quick venting session about our day, but sometimes, those friendships never reach the depth we truly crave.
The truth is, for far too long, women have connected over negativity. We meet up to complain about our jobs, our spouses, our children, or our health, and before long, what started as a catch-up session turns into a low-vibration bitch fest. These kinds of friendships often stagnate, becoming breeding grounds for gossip, jealousy, or a façade of connection where true authenticity is missing.
So, how do we move from shallow friendships to relationships that genuinely nourish our souls?
Girlfriends vs. Sisterhood: What's the Difference?
Girlfriends: This is often where friendships start—social connections with shared interests or common struggles. But too often, these relationships can stay at the surface, focused on everyday complaints or superficial updates. When conversations revolve around venting, gossiping, or even competing, it can leave both parties feeling drained rather than uplifted.
True Sisterhood: On the other hand, Sisterhood is intentionally created. It's more than just showing up to share complaints—it’s about being present for each other’s passions, lifting each other up in their pursuits, and creating sacred spaces for vulnerability and authentic support. A Sisterhood doesn’t revolve around negative energy, it thrives on celebrating each other’s wins and offering genuine support during challenges.
How Shallow Friendships Drain Us
Have you ever left a gathering with friends feeling worse than when you arrived? When friendships center around complaints or drama, they can become emotionally taxing. This "low-vibe" energy is contagious, and instead of rejuvenating each other, you walk away feeling depleted.
This draining cycle often stems from a place of shared wounds but doesn’t move forward into healing. Instead, conversations revolve around the same complaints or stories, which can foster resentment, jealousy, or even competition.
How Sisterhood Lifts Us Up
In true Sisterhood, the focus shifts from gossip to growth. You create intentional time to meet and support one another's goals and passions. Sisterhood celebrates your successes without competition and listens to your challenges without judgment.
One of the biggest uplevels I've had this year is scheduling face-to-face connection time with other women who want to build a lasting, meaningful, mutually supportive relationship. Both of us will sit down with our calendars and schedule a call together so we can be fully present and bring our love and attention to each other. I started calling them Sisterhood Connection Chats because when I started being intentional with the time I spent with my Sisters, I would feel more connected than I ever had with my previous friendships.
Building a Sisterhood around you is more than just having friends. It's about sitting in circle, whether physically or emotionally, with a shared intention to rise together. These relationships are about holding space for healing and celebrating personal transformation.
Sisterhood holds these core values:
Authenticity & Vulnerability: In Sisterhood, you can drop the mask and be fully yourself—flaws, insecurities, strengths, and all.
Intentional Support: Instead of tearing each other down with gossip, true sisters offer support, wisdom, and guidance, helping each other rise in their personal and professional lives.
Celebration of Growth: Success isn’t seen as a threat in Sisterhood. It’s celebrated, because we recognize that there’s room for all of us to succeed in every area of our lives.
How to Cultivate True Sisterhood
True sisterhood starts from within. To build meaningful and lasting relationships with other women, we first need to focus on personal growth and inner reflection. This requires us to develop self-awareness, improve our communication skills, and become clear on our own values. When we take the time to heal ourselves, become more mindful, and learn how to express our needs and boundaries with compassion, we become better equipped to connect with others in an authentic way. By understanding ourselves, we can form relationships that are based on trust, mutual respect, and shared growth, allowing us to create a sisterhood that empowers and uplifts everyone involved. Growth on the inside is what paves the way for deeper connections on the outside.
When we cultivate personal growth and self-awareness, we create a foundation for deeper, more meaningful relationships. This inner work helps us become more intentional and aligned in the energy we bring to our interactions. If you're longing for more depth and authenticity in your relationships, it’s time to shift the energy you bring into your connections:
Set Intentions: Schedule time with the women in your life to intentionally focus on growth and support rather than complaints or gossip.
Hold Space: Create a safe, judgment-free zone where each woman can express her truth and feel heard without fear of being misunderstood or judged.
Celebrate Each Other: When a friend shares a win, make space to celebrate it, no matter how small. When someone faces a challenge, offer solutions, support, or simply a listening ear without comparison or judgment.
Need to find some Next Level Sisters?
If you're ready to truly start changing your life, seek out women who are actively breaking generational patterns, creating supportive spaces, and growing a life they love. If your current friend circle feels draining and hollow, maybe it's time to get into some spaces where another caliber of women hang out.
Here are some ideas for you to find these awesome women. I promise you, they are out there. As you create firm boundaries around your energy and open up to true connections based on authenticity and support rather than competition and complaint, you'll start to attract amazing women in your life as well.
Women's Conferences, Summits, or Networking Groups. People who invest their time and money to attend conferences are some of the best I've ever met. Getting yourself in a room of hundreds or thousands of motivated, passionate women will light a fire inside of you! If you're in Indiana, there are incredible masterminds and conferences hosted by my Sister Brittany Lewis called The G.R.O.W. Conference (G.R.O.W. stands for Growing Remarkable Opportunities for Women). You can find out more here!
Sister Circles in person or online. If you find the right space, you can build wonderful Sister connections with women in spiritual containers. Our amazing group of women in the Red Tent Society are always lifting each other up and supporting one another in their menstrual journeys. My Sister Jess also hosts an incredible sisterhood on Telegram where we support each other in our cycles and pleasure. Find out more info on her Instagram @awaken_the_wild.
Online challenges and bootcamps. Most of my current Sisterhood Connections came from online challenges. If you see an ad that could support your current passions and interests in health, relationships, business, or parenting, seriously don't hesitate and sign up. Be an active participant in the Lives during the challenge and be on the look out for really awesome women to connect with.
Gyms, educational workshops, or volunteer opportunities in your local area. You're likely to find some incredible women hanging out in these local spots, so get out there and be your awesome self!
Conclusion
Raising up your friend circle is the FASTEST way to uplevel your life because when you get around amazing women who are supportive, you SHINE. Do some inventory of your friendships and if you find that you could use some Sisters in your corner, get yourself in spaces where they gather! When you show up with authenticity and positivity in your relationships, you will experience a more rich, meaningful life.
You are SO worthy of a Vibrant Life my friend!
💋Kori Rae
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